Gut check: forgiveness

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Back in April of this year I attended Exponential Conference in Orlando, Florida. I wrote about it here and here, but for those of you who don’t know, Exponential is the largest gathering of church planters in the world. To try and absorb everything I heard at that conference would be akin to taking a sip of water from a fire hydrant going full blast. Sometimes I took notes furiously, other times I simply tried to listen and glean what I could apply to my life.

But you know, there are times when a person speaks a truth into your life that’s so powerful you feel compelled to share it. This person was Jo Saxton. She didn’t say it to me personally. She said it via jumbo-tron in a room of over 2,000 people. The words were not her own. They were words she paid forward from another speaker she heard at a leadership conference.

“The way to know you had fully forgiven someone was that you no longer felt they owed you anything.”

I don’t know about you, but for me, that statement is profound. Often the trajectories of our lives are determined less by the trials and victories therein and more how we choose to react to them. Can we ever truly forgive as we have been forgiven? With no strings attached?

If the above statement struck a chord with you, I invite you to read the article it was taken from in its entirety. It will probably take you less than 2 minutes from start to finish, but if you’re struggling to truly forgive, those two minutes may put you on a path you’ve been longing to travel: Stories of Sifted: Jo Saxton

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5 Responses to “Gut check: forgiveness”

  1. SimplyDarlene June 4, 2012 at 10:10 am #

    Oh wow. That is simple and profound. I reckon I’ve got some letting go to do.

    Thanks for this bit miss Kathy.


  2. Angela Wade June 4, 2012 at 10:27 am #

    Kathy, thank you so much for sharing this! I have been on a road to forgiveness for quite some time, and I’m always looking for ways to reassess and reevaluate how much I’ve truly forgiven. This is a challenging statement that’s going straight into my journal.

  3. Audra Krell June 4, 2012 at 1:29 pm #

    Thank you so much! It was like I had written the linked article with the parts about what my absent father owes me. Wonderful that you passed this along.

  4. jake June 5, 2012 at 12:19 am #

    It makes sense that unforgiveness stems from feeling as though somebody owes us something. Dang. I might have to think about this one some more. Love it.

  5. floyd June 5, 2012 at 7:01 pm #

    That was a great post and that statement if noting else, is a sure way to identify if a person truly has completely forgiven someone else… I guess you know my answer. I thought I had… worse yet, I was lying to myself. Gotta go tear up some IOU’s.

    Whew, powerful stuff.

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